Have you granted yourself the sexual freedoms you deserve? How about these aspects of sexual independence:
Do you know how to give yourself a satisfying orgasm (at least most of the time) when you feel like it?
Are you confident stating what you like and don’t like sexually?
Are you informed about how your body works so that you can make educated decisions and advocate on its behalf?
Have you freed yourself from other people’s opinions about who you should be or how you should have sex?
Are you done chasing other people’s reactions to you and your sexuality, whether their reactions are lustful or shocked or anything else?
Can you look at your body clearly as a natural human body without expecting an airbrushed perfection?
Have you let go of that mean thing that your ex or the school mean girl or your brother said to you years ago?
Can you define your own sexuality based on how you feel rather than on who you are partnered with or not partnered with at the moment?
Can you honor and accept that your body is not meant to function like a machine but is affected by many variables and this is ok?
Are you familiar enough with your own values, beliefs and hopes that you can let them guide you, not require them to be reflected in the world around you?
Do you let yourself enjoy fantasies even when you would never want to enact them in real life?
Can you celebrate difference without telling yourself that you have to be different?
Is your open-mind excited about what might come next for you in your own pursuit of happiness?
What other elements make you feel sexually independent? Do you want to get more of this for yourself? You know what I am going to say, right?...Get The Conscious Sexual Self Workbook and claim your sexuality. Start with yourself.